Sunday, December 29, 2013
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Dusting off the old blog for the 2013 Cory Year in Review
Anita, John, Spencer, Camryn, Harrison Cory
Zeke the Wonder Dog, and Simon and Chloe the Fat Felines
Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Musings about July 1st.
Do you know the significance of this date?
No, it isn't my birthday.
No, it isn't my anyone in my family's birthday.
It is my anniversary.
Twenty, count them, twenty years of having the awesome privilege of working with and impacting the lives of fraternity and sorority students at Washington State University.
What has changed about me in that time? Oh, just a few small things.
In 1993, I was in my cough cough - er, I was younger. I was single and dating John long distance when I moved to P-town. I was thinner and my hair was curly, longer, lighter (I'm sure just from the sun). I had thousands of freckles and zero wrinkles from the sun. I had college loans to pay off. I had a sweet ride. I was actually clueless about the journey I was about to embark upon. I was young, green, and in some ways naive. I was passionate about my work and persistent in my belief that this thing called fraternity is among the most life changing experiences a college student can encounter.
So what is new or different? Some things are obvious, right? I'm cough cough, older, married for 18 years, Mom to three super-duper kids, drive a mini-van, have a cool dog, and a picket fence (not white mind you). I now wish I was thinner, that my freckles wouldn't have blended, my wrinkles were less obvious and that my hair was naturally my original color. I wish had more money to pay for my kid's college and had only sweet rides (i.e. death to the mini-van).
But thankfully today, the clueness has worn off and been replaced with a realistic perspective about the work I'm doing and how it impacts others. I am still "young", but I am now a seasoned professional. One thing hasn't changed, I'm still just as passionate and persistently believe that this thing called fraternity is among the most life changing experiences a college student can encounter.
I've been blessed with opportunities to mentor, educate, chastise, and befriend, twenty years of fraternity and sorority leaders. I am frequently blessed to hear from these men and women and learn about their lives and be appreciated like this:
Thanks to Washington State University and the Fraternity/Sorority Community for a great 20 year run and my life in Pullman, WA!
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
On being a Mom.
Since my Mom passed away in 2009, Mother's Day has been a day with mixed emotions for me. How blessed I am to be a mother, to my three, but how sad I am without my own mother here anymore. It is our Moms who believe in us no matter what we do, cry with us when we are hurting and rejoice with us when we succeed! We should celebrate our mothers, not just on Mother's Day, but every day.
For me, the word mother is synonymous with love. My own mother's example showed me what it truly means to have unconditional love for another person. There for every major milestone and setback that I have ever experienced, my Mom was my coach, teammate and cheerleader in the game of life. She served as a constant reminder that whether I am up or down, in or out, right on time or missing in action, I was always loved!
I spent some time reflecting on Sunday and a particular quote caught my attention, and in my melancholy space, explained so much. "The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent." -Erich Fromm
My Mom raised me to be a very independent kid, teenager, college student, young adult, and now parent. In being so independent, I can only imagine now, how she must have grieved many of my decisions (particularly the one to move far away...and as it turns out, never return). The tragedy then, is she had the tough challenge of learning to let go. As my children have grown older, and I contemplate one leaving home (for college) a year for now, I now realize this sometimes painful, but necessary process, is made possible by love.
In a nutshell, if I love my kids, I must raise them, as my Mom did me, to spread their wings, and leave me. My heart paradoxically breaks and soars at this thought.
Happy (belated) Mother's Day everyone.
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Cory Year in Review
- I saw family on one trip to the Midwest for work (serving as a facilitator for a leadership institute for fraternity/sorority students) and friends during another trip in the summer and then spent a weekend in Nebraska with my siblings helping Dad clean, purge, and get ready to leave the family homestead when he moves into town after he and Shirleen (a lovely woman) get married in February!
- John spent several nights in a tent with Harrison at Scout camp and he and Spencer went on an 8 day trip of a lifetime – Beyond Malibu (a trip organized by Young Life). On this trip in July, John and Spencer, along with 2 other men, 2 HS guys, and the 2 guides, had an extreme hiking, camping, climbing experience and because of the elevation “enjoyed” winter conditions for most of it. The “brochure” didn’t quite provide all the details that might have discouraged them from going. Still, it was a great trip and John’s plan is to stay in good-enough shape to go on the same trip with Harrison in six years. (See photos below).
- John and Camryn had a week-long visit in Iowa – to see (and in Camryn’s case, be spoiled by) family. Just for fun. Just because adults should have time alone with their family of origin too.
- Camryn also got to go to Young Life camp at Washington Family Ranch in Oregon for about a week. She had a great time, but unfortunately none of her close Pullman friends could go so the friends she made at camp are a little harder to keep in touch with – luckily she’s a texting wizard.
- As usual, (I write with sadness in my tone), we said goodbye to dear friends this summer. The Hoops family moved to Missouri and the Lockharts to Arizona. Both with God’s direction guiding them, but rats, we miss them.
2. Anita is wearing her wedding ring on her right hand.
3. Anita is wearing only one earring.
4. John is wearing a sign on his back that you can see in the mirror. It says, “kick me”.
5. The Christmas countdown calendar says there are 80 days until Christmas. Please tell me you know we do not put up our real Christmas tree in September. Maybe next year, we will work on our Christmas card 80 days prior and you’ll actually get it before the 25th!
6. The photo on the wall behind Anita is hanging from one corner.
7. The star on the Christmas tree is upside down, and nestled about a foot from the top of the tree.
8. Many Christmas decorations are turned around (they are homemade and actually have a front and a back).
9. Out of place on the mantel where there is a growing collection/display of Santas is a blue Kush ball toy.
10. Spencer is wearing mis-matched shoes.
11. Spencer is wearing jeans. OK, that would not be “something wrong with this photo” in most families, but Spencer is part werewolf and his body temperature runs so hot he rarely wears pants…even when it snows!
12. Spencer has an ornament hanging from his right pant leg.
13. Camryn is wearing a boot on one foot and a white sock on the other.
14. Spencer is moving his hand in the photo – oops, that is because I accidentally chose the wrong photo for 100 cards! Ugh!